I’ve always been a mum, since the age of 16 when my first son came along I worked part time in various roles in order to pay our bills, I got my first mortgage at 19 and stopped working soon after to dedicate my time to raising our growing brood of boys. When I was 24 after having my 5th son I enrolled in a peer support course to help families with breastfeeding. This was the true start to my future career. I volunteered for the next 6 years in this role and underwent various courses in this time, including babywearing, positive discipline, gentle parenting & understanding the developing brain. I then took this knowledge and opened up an attachment parenting group where we host all the above and a cloth Nappy library under one roof.
After a traumatic birth of my 7th child I wanted to further my knowledge and support women further in antenatal, birth and postnatally care, so I joined Red Tent and did the preparation for doula course in 2018 and completed and qualified soon after. This course opened the doors to a whole new way of thinking and being, I met so many inspirational women & we supported each other on our journeys, I knew I wanted to connect on an even deeper level. But trying to juggle a family of 7 and study and keep the house running wasn’t always easy, things take time and my family is the most important thing to me, after all this is for them, not to take me away from them.
I’ve taken on a few courses since becoming a doula to help understand the energies around us including an essential oils course and crystal healing.
And more recently I’ve made a women’s circle for Scarborough so we can all share knowledge and my understanding can grow further.
I’m also currently studying a hypnobirthing diploma and an infant loss course.
When you have a large family life can be chaotic, but in developing my business, I’ve developed space between my thoughts and my actions. I can be mum all day, I have 6 in school so I’m able to focus a few hours to my clients and studying but I’m always still mum, and that’s what I love most. It also means I’m free in the holidays so I don’t need to think about childcare.
In this job I nurture and take care of other people’s families but that doesn’t mean giving less to mine, in fact it’s made us connect so much more.
There’s the occasions when I have to be away to attend births, and at first we all struggled with that, It is something we’re all still adapting too as my husband still has to work full time, and the boys still have to go to school, we’re still learning but we’ve winged it so far and I’m sure it will become easier the more it becomes the new norm for them.
I’ve had a blog for a few years – Raising6boyswithHope and I have a page for my essential oils and a page for my doula work and I’m still putting together a website too.
Running a business isn’t for everyone, it’s lots of grabbed moments, lots of time with social media in my hand trying to spread the word, lots of workshops, lots of training. But I do believe my job is one of the most rewarding and has changed my whole outlook on life.